Boyfriend shot, killed during group ‘playdate’ with man who girlfriend met on swingers’ website, police say

SAVANNAH, Ga. (WTOC/Gray News) — A meetup for a “playdate” coordinated on a swingers’ website ended in a deadly shooting, investigators said.

The shooting happened Nov. 29 at the MAA Benton apartment complex in Savannah, Georgia.

In court Wednesday, investigators testified that the shooting happened after a woman, her boyfriend and another man — 40-year-old Alfonso Warner — agreed to a “playdate” after meeting on the website SDC Swingers Lifestyle.

“The person she was texting was who she met on a website, which is a swingers’ website,” an investigator said in court. “She had been texting him. She had met up with him before. And she knew his name was Alfonso.”

The girlfriend reportedly told police that she had asked Warner if she could bring her boyfriend, 48-year-old Arthur Gaynor, to a meetup.

The girlfriend said she and Gaynor arrived at the apartment around 1:30 a.m.

“She asked if she could bring what you call a playmate — so basically a friend,” the investigator said in court. “He [Warner] said that was OK. And they were basically inside partying, drinking and having a good time.”

Sometime during the gathering, the girlfriend said Gaynor felt disrespected, and she suggested they should leave.

“He’s talking stuff, ‘we should just go, let’s end the party,’” the investigator said in court. “So, they decide to put on their clothes, and as they put on their clothes, she advises that Alfonso comes from out of the room and shoots him [Gaynor].”

Detectives said Gaynor died after he was shot in the stomach.

His girlfriend called 911 as she drove him to the hospital.

She told police what happened and used the swingers’ website to identify the suspect.

“She took it a step further and signed in online to the account where she initially met him and showed me pictures of him,” the investigator said.

Savannah police later arrested Warner at a Red Roof Inn in Bryan County on Dec. 4.

Warner is charged with murder and aggravated assault.